The Blow Out
June 20, 2014
Lovely Husband had a blow out last week. Which almost led me to have a blow out as well…
I must explain that LH’s blow out wasn’t the “ransacking the cupboards and eating everything in sight” sort; this was a “collecting a car, heading home on the motorway and the driver’s side rear tyre suddenly exploding…”. The first I knew about it was when I got a telephone call from a very shaky-sounding LH explaining what had happened; assuring me that he was okay; letting me know that he and his friend (who had been following behind) were just putting the spare tyre on the car and that he would be home a little later than expected.
Even though I knew that LH was okay I still felt anxious. I knew he would have to take it really carefully and that sixty miles on the motorway with a “space saver” spare wheel required lots of concentration and a maximum speed of 40mph. I also knew that it would be at least an-hour-and-a-half before he made it back to Hudson HQ and during that time I could easily get to one of the two supermarkets that are our “corner shops”, stack up on wine, crisps and chocolate, and turn to my historic “remedy” of comfort eating to (temporarily) relieve my stress.
However, my changing habits and my changing headspace kicked in. I knew that comfort eating wouldn’t alter the circumstances in any way other than to add to my own “spare tyre” and so I resisted the temptation to grab my purse and head out of the door.
LH finally made it home at a little before 10pm, still a bit shaken and in need of a strong coffee and some supper. Luckily I had managed to distract myself in the kitchen by preparing roast chicken breast with home-made mash and lots of veggies. All well within WLR allowances and just what LH needed after a stressful journey, during which he had needed to pull into the motorway services to put air in the spare and pick up a bottle of water. He did admit that when he was paying for the water, he was sorely tempted to pick up a packet of cigarettes but he talked himself out of it because he knew that it would only be a “temporary fix”… and actually not a “fix” at all. He would have just ended up being angry with himself later on for undoing all the good work of the past six weeks. I confessed that I too had needed to suppress the urge to pick up a bottle of plonk but that focussing on peeling potatoes had been strangely calming.
We both also knew that we had needed to make an absolutely conscious effort not to revert to our bad habits… and had to keep telling ourselves not to “give in to temptation”. But we both managed it under stressful circumstances.
On a day-to-day basis I find that I’m managing my “old demons” pretty well. If I find myself thinking along the lines of “ooooh.. I just fancy”…. I find that I can “talk myself down”. I know now that I don’t need a couple of caramel digestives at 10pm after I’ve eaten a delicious, logged and entirely WLR-compliant evening meal. If I find I have a craving for cake I remind myself of the deal that LH and have made… we now have a weekend treat of a slice of cake from a local Patisserie (rather expensive and the slices are on the small side – which is perfect – it means we can’t over-indulge) served with a cup of really good coffee.
I would far rather look forward to that treat than miss out on it because I gave into biscuits or chocolate bars during the week. We don’t consider it a “blow out”… we have redefined it as our weekly “controlled explosion”… nothing about it will send us veering off course or stop us in our tracks completely. It’s a bit like the tyre…. LH managed to stay in control so whilst it wasn’t “routine” or “usual” it was manageable. That’s how I dealing with my fondness for the occasional sweet treat whilst sticking to my plan of significantly reducing my waistline….
Control is the key… and the only thing regular “blow outs” will do is deal a severe blow to my WLR success. That isn’t going to happen.
Here’s to a great WLR day
With a Hug
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