Take Appropriate Action
March 24, 2014
I’m feeling a little bit “down” this morning, but that’s how I usually feel in the morning, it’s a hormone “thing”... my age; my gender... all things beyond my control.
The important thing is that I know why the first three hours of every day are an ordeal. What I want to do when the alarm goes off is throw the clock out of the window, snuggle back down under my duvet and ignore the world for the rest of the month. Cumulatively it’s too much to contemplate, but if I do it bit-by-bit it’s do-able, not pleasurable, I really do just go into “autopilot” to get through it.
I’m also learning to “face my fears” in bite-sized bits, not easy but necessary. The thing is we all have fears. There is always something that we think,
“If that happened what would I do?”
They may be “life changing” fears or something that on the surface seems trivial but is very troubling. My fear is losing my job. It happened once and it was terrifying. I now have a job. But if I’m being honest it’s not the job that was “sold” to me at interview. If it were I would never have taken it.
It doesn’t play to my strengths as it’s accountancy - when numbers and I don’t really get along (whereas words are my best friends); I get into the office every morning wondering if this is the day that I’m discovered as the fraud that I feel I am at my desk and I hear the “I’m sorry but we’re “letting you go....” sentence. That’s my biggest fear, but they haven’t uttered the words yet, and I’m still at my desk trying desperately not to comfort eat – which is my default setting when I’m stressed.
And although this may all seem a bit negative, the fact that I’m conscious of my fears, that I’m refusing to give into them, and that I know what my tendencies are when stressed or under pressure is a huge Positive. I’m learning to take a step back, to analyse my thoughts and feelings dispassionately, and to take the appropriate action. So I guess that’s my thought for today.
Take Appropriate Action.
When faced with a challenging situation you have options. You can go and hide under the duvet and pretend it’s not happening; you can go onto “autopilot” and react the way you always do; or you can analyse, consider all the possibilities and make a decision based on what you know is best for you. It may well be the duvet; it may well be “autopilot” (which in my case is a high street baker’s Custard Slice!), or it may be to take a step back, consider the situation as if it were happening to someone else, factor in all the possibilities and then come up with a solution that will provide the Best Outcome for you.
It’s not easy; it really is re-wiring your brain to stop you going for your usual “default setting”.
It takes thought, time and effort, just like the WLR journey and life itself.
But we are AMAZING, our capacity to take control is underestimated, so if you feel like you’re going to hit “autopilot” at any time today... make the determined decision not to - well not until you’ve analysed the situation and considered all the options... and then... Take Appropriate Action.
And whilst you’re doing this, remind yourself that you’ve shown courage and commitment by signing up for WLR in order to make a change. You have already shown you can Take Appropriate Action by signing up for WLR.
So whatever action you take today, and whatever the outcome…just remember you are amazing and You Can Do This.
With a start-of-the-working-week Hug