Rename and Reframe
January 12, 2015
I have made a conscious effort not to make “resolutions” for 2015; instead I have settled on a few “projects”. By re-naming them I have somehow taken a little bit of pressure off myself. I’m hopeful that the projects will come to fruition but by classifying them differently they don’t seem so daunting and therefore I think they are less likely to fail.
It’s a concept that will be familiar to anyone who has taken an interest in NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming - I’m a huge fan) where the “labels” that are given to a situation or circumstance are removed and replaced by something which makes it seem an entirely different prospect to the brain.
It’s amazing how names can give something a perspective which shifts completely when it is “renamed”.
A classic case is one of Lovely Husband’s most favourite Christmas presents of 2014. To the rest of the world it would be known as a “onesie”, but because it is styled like the costume of one of his favourite superheroes, it is known at Hudson HQ as his “spidie-suit”(you know which superhero I mean now don’t you). I did briefly refer to it as his “costume” but we’ve ditched that now and “Spidie Suit” is it.
He was delighted with it and kept trying to persuade me to get a “onesie” of my own. I pointed out to him that when it comes to “matters the bathroom” a onesie, whilst ideal for him, is somewhat less practical for me (as a female). Our bathroom is very cold (and even more so when your main item of clothing is a one-piece round your ankles with very little else underneath to keep the chill at bay).
I did also point out that I didn’t need a “onesie” as I have a “Two-sie”. In fact I have two “Two-sies”… I have one for daytime and one for night-time. They have separate top-and-bottom halves (so I’m not nearly naked if I need a “comfort break” and are warm and cosy. They do, however, go by different names. To most people my day time version (in black velour) would be known as “track suit”. It has a hooded top and was very popular about four years ago. The night time version doesn’t have a hood and is made of snugly flannelette. I believe most people would refer to these as “pyjamas”. Same thing, different name.
This also applies to aspects of my WLR journey. I have long since ditched the “d” word… much preferring to tell people that I am focussing on “healthy eating” rather than declaring that I am “on a diet”.
When it comes to my food choices, I now don’t call any food “bad” because, let’s face, unless it is actually toxic then it isn’t bad… it’s the quantity that we consume that causes the peril, not the actual food substance itself.
And when it comes to my continued abstinence from alcohol, I have stopped telling people “I’m on the wagon”;or “I’m teetotal”… instead I’ve aligned myself with the (apparently currently fashionable) trend of “not doing” for a month. People are now aware of the fact that “I’m not drinking alcohol during January”. When next month arrives, I will simply change that to “I’m not drinking alcohol during February”.
As well as not feeling like a resolution, it breaks it down into manageable chunks… I’m not giving up for the whole of 2015… I’m just making my way through the year on a month-by-month basis.
When it comes to the issue of the weighing scales, I’m cutting myself some slack there as well. Lovely Husband and I celebrate our twentieth wedding anniversary in June. When we made it to ten years I decided I would fit back into my wedding dress. It was a good focus and I managed it, so that is another of my “projects” for the first part of 2015.
I am going to do my best to ensure that the morning of our anniversary sees me bringing LH his morning coffee resplendent in bridal gown (I’m not sure if I’ll go the whole hog with the veil and shoes, I can decide on that nearer the time). I know that when I manage this that I will have definitely reduced the number on the weighing scale – but I’ve shifted the focus from the actual number to a wedding dress. It gives the project a completely different perspective and I’m really looking forward to cracking on with it.
It looks like I’m going to have busy 2015 but I have to say that by changing the “name” I’ve given things, I’ve changed the thoughts in my head. By renaming and reframing things I’ve managed to view them all differently – perhaps with a bit more positivity and energy than if I had just gone down the “resolution” route.
So if you have any personal aims or goals that you want to achieve, why not see if you can rename and reframe them? What’s in a name? From what I’ve discovered in the past week, sometimes a lot more than you would first imagine…
Have a wonderful WLR week.
With a Hug