April 14, 2014
I had a lovely weekend. Lovely Husband and I met up with a few members of his family and headed even further down south to welcome home a very special member of the family. It had been on the calendar for several weeks so I had time to factor it in.
LMIL (my Lovely Mother-in-Law) made most of the arrangements and, knowing the journey that I’m on, gave me a “heads up” that lunch would be in the form of a “hog roast”.
I’m rather partial to that and so the planning and preparation began to make sure I could enjoy the day knowing that my “WLR responsibilities” were (quite literally) “catered for”.
I got out my trusty notebook (it’s a beautiful A5 bound book with a cover which says “dreams come true”… I love the WLR logging and journal but, for me, the “written word” is part of me, which is why I do all my logging with pen and paper…. and then I can choose to “upload” it whenever I feel the need).
I did some calculations; made some adjustments to my weekly menu; made sure the sums added up and knew that I could enjoy a great weekend without any guilt about what I ate or drank.
It was a glorious day on the South coast. Lovely Husband made sure I woke up whilst it was still dark with a lovely cup of tea… I had a WLR-approved breakfast of yoghurt and poached pears and we got into Percy (LH’s beautiful 1986 944 which he drives every day and makes the hour-long commute far more enjoyable….) and headed to the “bottom of England”. When we got there the sun was shining; spirits were high and I was really looking forward to the day. And I wasn’t disappointed. The sun shone, the company was great and it really made me think about all that I hold dear…. However….
The Hog Roast was a potential minefield. Firstly it appeared well before midday.. so my brain couldn’t process the fact it was “lunchtime”
-particularly as my tummy was still working on my 5am yoghurt and fruit breakfast). Secondly the accompanying salad really didn’t look appetising. Thirdly.. it smelled wonderful. However...the bread rolls looked heavy and the “hog” looked very dry.. so I made an executive decision and I decided that I really didn’t need an early lunch.
A year ago it wouldn’t have crossed my mind to refuse it…
but I’m learning about my habits, my tendencies, about what is sound nutritional advice; about what I need and what I don’t need.. and it’s really made a difference.
Since I’ve started my weight loss journey I’ve discovered the difference between “being hungry” and “feeling hungry”.
In the past I would eat because it “was time”….
Breakfast time, lunch time, dinner time.. the hands on the clock would dictate when I ate rather than what my stomach and brain were telling me.
I’ve learned to listen to my “hunger clock” rather than rely on the clock-on-the-mantelpiece. It has made a huge difference. It takes practice and patience and it is a “learned response rather than a “natural” response... but it was something I needed to grasp.
In the past I would have eaten the pork roll (accompanied by potato salad; coleslaw and green salad) simply because it was there. Not because I was hungry… not because “Hog Roast” was on my list of favourite foods.. simply because it was on offer.
My weight loss journey has really made me rethink my habits and my “default settings”.
I avoided the hog roast but when we decamped to the services club after lunchtime I enjoyed my two glasses of wine. The drive home with Lovely Husband in the early spring sunshine was without a customary “service station toilet stop” (which usually includes a coffee and pastry of some sort) and when we eventually made it back to Hudson HQ and I did my “guesstimate” of the days’ intake (going “higher” rather than lower on quantities) I was content with what my “workings out” told me.
I had a lovely day.. spending time with people that I love; enjoying being a new part of the country for me; not worrying about calories and nutrition.
The planning and preparation meant that I knew what my parameters were
and when I was faced with a less-than-appetising-hog I knew “balance sheet” could withstand some re-tweaking and fine tuning.
The weight loss journey is a balancing act. I want to keep on track, stay focussed and see a downward trend on my scales.
I don’t want to become a “diet bore”.
I don’t want to be so obsessed by weight loss that I lose sight of what else is important in my life. I don’t want people to think of me as the one who “constantly bangs on about her diet”; I don’t want to remember the good times in my life in terms of being obsessed about what I ate or drank; I don’t want to remember that I was the grumpy one in the corner who didn’t “join in”.
I want to look back and smile as I remember great times with people who really matter to me. Where I was myself but didn’t compromise myself. Times when I laughed lots, enjoyed myself and made memories to keep with me.
Remember that weight loss is a journey.. but so is life.
It’s important to stay focussed and in control but it’s also important to enjoy where you are.. right here.. right now. This isn’t a dress rehearsal. We don’t get the chance to have a run through, put right what we think we “got wrong” and then start all over again. This is it. One shot. One time.
Of course there are things we would like to change; of course there are times when we wish we had done things differently. But the fact of the matter is all we can do is what we believe is the best for ourselves and those we care about. The weight loss journey is intensely personal and private but is a journey which is shared by those who are in our hearts and who are part of our lives.
Sometimes it can feel like we’re on this road on our own… but we’re not.
Whether it is loved ones, or friends in “the real world”, or friends here on WLR…. It is your journey but it is a shared experience.
Wherever you are on the road, and whoever is alongside you. Cherish every step. Learn the lessons you need and share the wisdom you have gathered. Live, Love and Enjoy Life.
With a huge hug.
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