Pick and Mix
August 21, 2015
I had a conversation with a friend in “the real world” who is also a member of WLR. We were chatting about all things “waist whittling” and she said that she felt she needed to “’fess up”. I was intrigued….what crime had she committed? What sin was she guilty of? (and I think I’ve touched on “feeling guilty” in my musings before). I listened to what she had to say………
It turns out that whilst she is a successful weight-loser and uses WLR as part of her weight loss journey, she also a member and attends meetings of another well-known weight loss organisation. She was feeling guilty because as she was posting her successes on the WLR forum she was worried that she might be being deceitful to other members here who were following her progress not realising that she was using multiple resources to help her to reach target.
I could understand completely where she was coming from…. and told her that to me it simply reinforced the fact that every one of us on a weight loss journey has a completely different road map. I’ve said before that “one size does not fit all” when it comes to our shape, our size and the methods that work best for us when it comes to losing the lbs, changing our bodies and acquiring new habits that will last us a (healthy) lifetime.
The strange thing is, that people don’t seem to realise that is because everyone is different that there are so many organisations and resources available to help us. I have tried a few of them in the past and had success with some and just couldn’t get my head around others. I have friends who are also trying to lose weight… all of them using different resources and techniques and strategies.
The plain and simple answer was that she had nothing to confess to. Weight loss is intensely personal and individual. All of us here on the WLR site make use of the tools and the tips available… but we probably all (even without realising it) make use of information and ideas from a whole range of sources. For me… whilst WLR is by far the most effective “organisation” for me… I do still hold in my head a rule I learned from my first attempt at weight loss (which is.. if it has less than 4g of fat per 100g it can be considered “low fat” for weight loss). This came from one of the well-known organisation… which I was a member of and I did successfully lose a stone-and-a-half. I was very pleased with my results… but as I got older and illness and medication made me gain weight, I revisited it and it didn’t “fit” me as well as it used to. I then dabbled with one or two of the other options available before finally finding WLR resources.
As you all know…I’m a huge fan of WLR … I understand it… it doesn’t make it complicated… it puts me in complete control and makes me take responsibility for my actions…. But I know that I still incorporate strategies from many different places and people in order to make sure my “toolbox” is completely right for me. From family recipes to the exercise regime I follow; from listening to relaxing cds to journaling every day. Often the same tools can be found in endless different sites or sources… other times they are a strategy you have devised from the “pick and mix” available. The important thing to remember is there is no Right System or Wrong System. There are just Endless Possibilities.
I have been involved with weight loss organisations where some of the members are positively evangelical about the system they are using …. Often to the point that they seem to be conveying the “it’s this way or the wrong way” kind of message. I understand their passion. They have found something that works for them, that they can live with and get effective results from…. And they want to tell the world…. But the key is it works for them. It may not work for everyone.
Some things are universal… support, discipline, taking responsibility, being kind to ourselves (and each other) but we are all individuals and equally unique are our weight loss (and life) journey plans.
So wherever your journey takes you today… remember to stop and look around you… share what you have to offer with others and accept what others may have to offer you. If you are able to.. enjoy each day and know that the journey is whatever you make of it.
Have a great day and remember… You Are Amazing and Unique.
With a hug