March 7, 2014
Last night I found myself thinking about “moving goalposts”... I was reviewing my own personal WLR goal yesterday and about my decision to set my weight loss at half-a-pound a week. I know from the past that a lower weekly rate of loss works best for me but it does mean that the “end date” seems a very very long way away.
I did think about “upping” it to a pound a week to shorten the time it will take to get to goal but have decided to stick with my original plan as it is far more do-able in my “real life” than the wishful thinking of an earlier target.
I have to remind myself that this is not a sprint... that “slow and steady” will get me to the place I want to be in... and that accepting this is the start of a habit for life will help to keep me there when I do get to goal.
I’m not quite sure why I’m struggling at the moment but the last few days have been difficult. I think it has something to do with the fact that Spring and Summer fashions are appearing here there and everywhere and I can see lots of bright and beautiful clothes that I would love to wear but which are just not designed to flatter my current shape. I think I had sub-consciously got it into my head that this spring I would be slim and slender (even though the calendar clearly showed that I would still be less than half-way to my desired weight and shape).
I keep looking for the “light at the end of the tunnel” but at the moment I seem to have lost sight of it. It is that glimpse of something that lets us know we are heading in the right direction and that if we keep moving forward we will get there. However, as a species, we are often impatient and eager or far too keen to set off at a reckless pace in order to get to “the end”... when there is no real “end” - just the start of a new journey to make sure we don’t move backwards and undo all our hard work.
And sometimes it can really feel like hard work... because if it were easy we would all be a slender size 10.... but we aren’t and for some of us our size and shape is an ongoing battle.
It requires discipline and focus and effort. There is no “quick fix” (despite the endless plugging of faddy diets and weight loss supplements). It is an ongoing process that requires review and reflection. It is a personal journey with a road map that is utterly our own and an outcome that is unique.
There is a much-used mantra saying that "it isn’t the destination that matters but the journey itself" and I believe that to be the case with WLR and life. If your WLR journey is proving difficult it becomes easy to think about throwing in the towel; to tell yourself “I can’t do this” and then to give up. If you are in this place now... think about moving your goalpost. This is Your Journey. You set the parameters. You have control. You are allowed to make changes. It’s not a failure; it isn’t an admission of defeat; it is a tactical move to enable you to continue to move forward. It is a statement of intent and a positive step in the right direction.
If you set yourself unattainable goals, or expect to achieve them within unreasonable timescales then you are setting yourself up to fail... and you will find that reinforces every negative thought you have ever had about how you look; how you feel and what you are able to accomplish.
Focus instead on the fact that you have identified a problem, found a solution and you can make as many amendments and alterations as you need, as often as is necessary, to make sure that you continue to move forward. It isn’t the speed or the size of the step that you take that matters, it is simply the process of “moving forward”. As long as you focus on what lies ahead; look back to see where you started from and how far you have come; allow yourself to be flexible on your journey; and remind yourself that YOU CAN DO THIS you will continue to move forward.
In the “Olympics of life” this is not the 100 metre sprint. It is the marathon. It is daunting and requires discipline and dedication. It is do-able.. but it is also flexible.
So if you’re finding the going is getting a bit tough or if you haven’t “checked in” with yourself for a while, why not take a little time to think about your goals and aspirations, to consider your journey and how you can give yourself the best possible chance to reach your destination without beating yourself up or setting impossible goals, knowing that once you have reached your destination you can continue your maintenance journey with focus and fine tuning to ensure you stay there.
Remember, the goalposts are not set in stone... they, like your WLR journey, are entirely under your control.
Here’s to a “Back of the Net” day!
With a hug