Love is In The Air
February 14, 2014
It’s that time of year again…. Heart-shaped gifts on every shelf; the price of roses has gone through the roof; it’s hard to book a restaurant and supermarket “romantic dining at home” offers are everywhere. St Valentine is having his Day and it seems there’s no escape. Love is in the air; Love is all around and, apparently, All You Need Is Love.
The strange thing about love it that, in logical terms, it’s hard to quantify; hard to clearly define; sometimes difficult to put into word, but each and every one of us has our own understanding of “love”.
“Love” is one of those things that are hard to pin-point but I came across a definition which fits my understanding of Love: “a general expression of positive sentiment”.
I like the idea of “positive sentiment”. I’m one of those people who think that positivity is a good thing; Positive Mental Attitude is something I celebrate and if there is a day when “positive sentiment” is to be celebrated then count me in. I also think that we need to remember that whilst it’s nice to feel loved by others – it’s really important to try to love yourself, and that’s something that often falls by the wayside when we judge ourselves harshly; or when we are disappointed in ourselves; or when we feel unworthy and loveable. It’s hard, sometimes, to love who you are, when all you feel is disappointment or dissatisfaction. It’s a place I visited often in the past two years, but it isn’t a place that I chose to stay in. Taking myself away from there wasn’t easy, (and there are times when I find myself back there) but I’ve come to learn finding things that I love about myself is an important part of the journey that I’m on and essential if I am to keep making headway.
On the face of it Valentine’s Day is all about the hearts and flowers; the cards and the gestures, but that isn’t it at all. I like the idea of taking the day and making it 24 hours to embrace “a general expression of positive sentiment”.
It’s not about how many cards the postman delivers; it isn’t about the size or the value of any gifts you receive.
Each and every one of us have positive features; things that we are proud of (even though we may never share them with anyone else); moments in our lives when we are genuinely pleased and proud of who we are; times when we are absolutely the best that we can be -although sometimes it’s very hard for us to see them ourselves.
So, today, if you have people in your life who you value and who contribute to making your life better, then let them know. It doesn’t have to be a card or a gift, just a few quiet, well-chosen words are all it will take. But most importantly, today is about you. Pay no heed to the corporate view of February 14. That’s not what it is really about.
It’s about finding the positives within yourself and celebrating them.
I know that it can be hard when you don’t like what you see in the mirror; when you feel that somehow you have let yourself (or others) down, but each and every one of us has something positive within ourselves. Today is the day to remind yourself of that and celebrate.
So as we spend 24 hours celebrating all that is “Valentine’s Day, make sure you take time out to “Celebrate You”. Find those things that you are proud of, whether it is your resilience; your ability to pick yourself up after endless “knock-downs”; or your determination to change the situation you find yourself in (whether that is in life or on your weight loss journey). Take a moment or two to remember those times when you made a positive difference to those around you. Remind yourself of when you felt amazing and unstoppable and when you loved being “just you”.
Hold on to those thoughts and memories. Carry them with you, not just today but always. Bring them to mind on those days when you are feeling down, or despondent; when you are beating yourself up for feeling like a failure.
Remind yourself of just how amazing and unique you are.
Treasure what you are and, most importantly, love the unique being that is YOU.
I will leave you today, not with my usual hug, but with lots of love.